No matter how far back in memory I reach, I can find her there. She was a senior in high school when I was born, and she immediately set out to love me fiercely, and took me under her wing. I can see her in the faded memories of early childhood---little snippets here and there, like grainy black & white film strips worn with age and repeated use. I see her in my house, and me in hers. I see her out and about, remember interiors of several different vehicles.
She always had amazing makeup, and never cared in the slightest when I played with it. She taught me the art of the smoky eye, how to apply mascara and eyeliner and the perfect lipstick color. I raided her closet, doused myself in her perfume. To me, she was the coolest, and from my earliest memories, I was hard at work emulating her style.
We were so close in those years, and she was more big sister than Aunt, and she knew all the minutia of my life. She attended games when I was a cheerleader, always helping me tame my bangs and achieve the perfect ponytail before I hit the field. We laughed together, always. She’s a bright spot in memory, looking back as far as my brain cells will grant me passage. The rest? Well, it’s there too---just buried a little deeper, and not as readily accessible for recall.
When she had kids of her own, I adored them like nothing before. I spent every possible moment with them, feeding and bathing and changing and cuddling. From the age of nine, I enthusiastically embraced my mini-Mommy role, and she let me. She trusted me fully, relinquished each of her three babies to me whenever I wanted. I was there in the hospital each time to welcome them, and on the last one, I held a baby so brand new that I had to lean over so that she was still beneath the warming lights. I was a high school cheerleader by this time, and I missed our rival game---the most
anticipated of the season---to be there for the big moment. I never had a shred of regret. I adored those years in my life, and I look back on them so fondly. If I’m one day blessed to hold children of my own, I’ll know exactly what to do thanks in large part to Victoria, Josh and Abbey and all those years I lavished them with love and “house” playing.
Time moved on as it always does---we all grew up and away and different, but we keep those memories and pull them out from time to time. Turn them over in our minds, relive for a minute the joy of a time that is no more. We reunited last weekend, and while we’re all so different, it was also mostly exactly the same. Adorable kids all grown up, sweet as ever and as huggable today as they were back then, even if I’m no longer able to pick them up.
And as for her, she remains the stylish and cool Aunt from my formidable years, the friend and guide that had such a lasting impact on the course of my childhood, on the woman I’d grow to
be. She is 50 and fabulous, now. And she’s near and dear to my heart, always.
Happy 50th birthday, Aunt Alisa Jane! Here’s to your next chapter, and to time marching on, time well
lived. To us, linked present and future by an enormous love that colors our past.
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